I regret something and could use some advice on how to move past it. Recently, I was browsing YouTube and saw a comment from someone asking for help removing a stuck ring because their finger had swelled in the morning. I responded with a possible solution. A few minutes later, I deleted that comment and reposted the same advice, but this time, I also asked them to record and upload a video of the ring removal attempt.

Unfortunately, by the time I added the request to record, they had already seen my first comment and used the method I suggested. It took them one hour in total to remove the ring. I was really looking forward to seeing a video of the process because no existing videos are that long (most are around 30 minutes at most). They even mentioned they had a tool that could have easily recorded the attempt, so I missed a great opportunity to see this interesting and lengthy ring removal.

Now, I feel such regret because I had control over the situation but still wasted this chance. I know it is trivial in the grand scheme of things since it is just for entertainment, but I cannot help but feel disappointed. Asking the person to get their ring stuck again just to record it is obviously not an option, so I will never be able to see that footage.

Since this did not really affect my life in a major way, the usual advice on how to get rid of regret might not be as effective. How do I move past this feeling of missing out on something that could have been really interesting to watch?

  • algorithmae@lemmy.sdf.org
    16·
    5 months ago

    Even if the opportunity presented itself, it’s not necessarily the case that it would have come to fruition. Chances are that person wouldn’t have bothered to make a video even with your request, because they were likely panicking about their stuck ring. I’d be happy that my advice helped the person out without pushing my luck to get a video out of it too.

    • DayOk2@lemmy.worldOP
      14·
      5 months ago

      I talked with this person about recording it, and they said that they were actually going to record it by using a tool that can record these kinds of footages, had I not been too late.

    • algorithmae@lemmy.sdf.org
      3·
      5 months ago

      Legitimately the best answer here. OP sounds like they have tendencies that aren’t good for long term social and mental health.

  • Blyfh@lemmy.world
    5·
    5 months ago

    Genuinely, can we stop downvoting OP’s comments and post? No matter how little you can relate to this, it’s not justified to downvote someone not understanding why others find this weird. My god, this is No Stupid Questions, the last place where we should punish someone for confessing something that is important for them!

    Be humane. Treat other people’s struggles with respect.

    • fsxylo@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      1·
      5 months ago

      Downvotes on this site are effectively just a metric of how many stupid people saw your post. The rating system shouldn’t exist at all imo. It gamifies opinions.

  • abbadon420@lemm.ee
    5·
    5 months ago

    Sound slike you’re young? You’re going to miss a shit ton more of these kind of opportunities. You’re going to have to learn to deal with it and learn from it so that you don’t make the same mistake next time.

    Opportunities aren’t rare, but theyre not common either. It’s best to seize as many as you can to get as much out of life as you can.

    • DayOk2@lemmy.worldOP
      11·
      5 months ago

      Okay, but the thing is that while I also had other regrets, they were lessened after waiting. This however, seems like it is not going to lessen at all. Even if it seems like the regret disappeared, it comes back after one or a few days. My question is how to deal exactly with missed opportunities.

      • abbadon420@lemm.ee
        7·
        5 months ago

        All you can do is learn from your mistakes and do better next time. That’s what mistakes are for, to learn. Without mistakes, you don’t learn.

  • TheFonz@lemmy.world
    73·
    5 months ago

    Are we starting a ‘best of lemmy hall’ because this shit is gold. Not broken arms reddit but it’s inching there

  • NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world
    4·
    5 months ago

    Asking the person to get their ring stuck again just to record it is obviously not an option

    But still… how about trying the method on your own hand? That way, if you forget again to record it, you can have all the blame for yourself. Or, in case you can’t take it off anymore…

    • DayOk2@lemmy.worldOP
      13·
      5 months ago

      I recorded it a while ago, but my knuckles are too big, so the video was not that interesting. I am more interested in rings that get stuck due to swelling and fat fingers, not big knuckles.

      • borari@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        61·
        5 months ago

        Damn bro. Porn sites pulling out of regions because of ID laws are really causing us to go to some weird places huh?

              • Blyfh@lemmy.world
                1·
                5 months ago

                Nothing. It’s just an odd question because most people don’t see or understand how someone could be interested in this. They assume it’s something sexual or otherwise kinky. I think it’s just an obscure preference and people are once again forgetting that this is No Stupid Questions…

                • DayOk2@lemmy.worldOP
                  1·
                  5 months ago

                  I do neither watch porn nor want to go to PornHub, so can you tell me what happens when searching for that?

  • gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    2·
    5 months ago

    Honestly, these situations of spontaneous regret happen a lot to me, and they seldomly are about the thing that i’m supposedly regretting. Often, it is some deeply rooted issues in my brain instead, that just seek some kind of “replacement sadness”. So it’s probably not really about that thing (video in your case) but about something else, that needs time to express itself, sothat you can get over it.