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Cake day: November 6th, 2023

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  • I think a relationship community might have the best answers, but I don’t know what the options for that on Lemmy are.

    Have you talked to your friend or your sister about this? (Separately? Together?)

    It sounds like you have good relationships with both your friend and your sister, and good relationships are always supported by strong communication.

    It’s normal for them to do “couple things”, and it’s normal for you to feel uncomfortable. It’s also normal for them to be unaware (or even to not care) who sees them…the brain doesn’t finish developing until 25!

    I think it sounds like you’d be okay with them dating, but they need to tone down the PDA in front of you. It’s reasonable to tell them this and expect this of them.

    I think it also sounds like you want to maintain relationships with both of them without feeling like a third wheel. If they’re a new couple, this might be a bit hard. If they’re in the “honeymoon phase”, they’ll probably want to spend all their time together. And time together means “couple things”. The same will probably happen to most of your friends, and to you.

    I know that might not sound reassuring, but think of it this way. Yes, it sucks. But it’s not because of anything you did, nor is it really a result of either your sister or your friend “changing” (who they are as people).

    I think for me, it’d be enough if the friend would at least text me to say “Hey I’m coming over to spend time with [sister]”. That way, I wouldn’t get my hopes up that he’s coming over to game, haha

    Anyways, I’m sorry about the situation you’re in. It sucks. Try not to sweat it too much. This will probably just be an awkward situation that you get to bring up around your sister at future family events.