The litmus test of determining if there is bigotry involved is to change the terms in contention. If it is bigoted in one direction, it is fundamentally bigoted in both.

You hit the nail on the head when you posited “if this was a guy doing it to his girlfriend” it would be toxic, manipulative, and abusive.

Let’s make misandry as unacceptable as misogyny. Because true equality will be impossible until we do.

1. Find a pair of vehicle radiators that are as close to a box fan in size as possible.
2. Zip tie them to either side of the box fan. As the fan blows: it will draw air in through the “second radiator” and blow it out through the “first radiator”.
3. Hook the out of the first radiator to the in of the second using flexible hoses. Cheap garden hoses might even fit.
4. Hook other hoses to the in of the first radiator and the out of the second.
5. Run water on through the first radiator, out of the second. This makes the most efficient heat transfer possible.

And that justifies treating men as disposable assets of war?

Some of the best combatants in modern warfare - and no few in historical warfare - have been female.

Conscription should not be bigoted and sexist.

There are plenty of potential recruits left.

They just don’t have the political stomach to implement true equality. So they continue to treat men as disposable.