Would you agree it’s messed up to physically spin someone in circles, and then yell at them for being dizzy?
What about them never speaking to you again, because you pointed out they were the one spinning you? That it was their idea, and they were having fun… until they weren’t?
Some people’s egos are so easily damaged – to the point that they can’t even look at you, because they can’t face the consequences of their influence.
I totally feel all that, unfortunately. But I’m trying to end the “blame-cycle” and I think it starts with forgiving my parents. FFS they got beat with belts and shit. Psychological warfare isn’t cool, and definitely fucked me up, but they had it worse.
They had it so bad, they pretended their parents were perfect. And then beat themselves up when they couldn’t live up to that illusion. Or projected it onto us for not making them appear to be perfect parents. But were all just human, man. We’re all gonna fuck up.