Would you agree it’s messed up to physically spin someone in circles, and then yell at them for being dizzy?
What about them never speaking to you again, because you pointed out they were the one spinning you? That it was their idea, and they were having fun… until they weren’t?
Some people’s egos are so easily damaged – to the point that they can’t even look at you, because they can’t face the consequences of their influence.
Sounds familiar. Accountability and commitment, are certainly lacking in today’s society.
We have to stop granting permissions to those who have no intention of sticking around for the fallout. That’s our part of accountability. Next time, we won’t engage in the first place. Live and learn.
I’ve been noticing this pattern of behavior as well. I think I was raised to be distracted and make concessions for others. Not see things for what they really are. While simultaneously taking all the blame. Or blaming someone else. But it’s not all their fault. I can’t fully blame them, and I can’t fully blame myself. We all play our role in things going well, or getting totally fucked.
Can we just all agree that our parents are to blame? I feel like everyone was raised by medicated rage-zombies… hahaha… what do you mean “it’s not funny”?
I totally feel all that, unfortunately. But I’m trying to end the “blame-cycle” and I think it starts with forgiving my parents. FFS they got beat with belts and shit. Psychological warfare isn’t cool, and definitely fucked me up, but they had it worse.
They had it so bad, they pretended their parents were perfect. And then beat themselves up when they couldn’t live up to that illusion. Or projected it onto us for not making them appear to be perfect parents. But were all just human, man. We’re all gonna fuck up.